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Helene Pouwels motherhood tips

Motherhood: How to get out of guilt?

I had never thought about parenting until I became pregnant. It was such an unreal experience for me.

Not only I had to choose my ideal parenting style and be super confident about it. People judge you and your choice. As a matter of fact, in France, people often choose not to breastfeed while in Australia most mothers do breastfeeding for a year. In France, most people go back to work after 3 months while most mothers in Australia take a year off minimum. 

Oftentimes, it doesn’t happen how you planned it. I had decided not to take any chemical during pregnancy and still ended up with strong kidney stones, hospitalized, and drugged up l from week 30. I had decided to feed them on demand and let them drive. They were both premature and were placed in intensive care,  in a warmed plastic box, and I could not even touch them for the first few days. The list goes on….

The least expectation the better when it comes to parenting!

I see around me that mothers do feel guilty. Probably fathers too, but I mostly shared those discussions with Mums and therefore, can only talk about it in our case. 

The guilt is not productive and does not ameliorate the situation. It makes it worse because the kids are smart and they know when they can play by pushing boundaries. It is very important to have some strong accountability making sure that we are happy in our roles. 

I am sharing the tips that worked for me in this video.

Now please share your own tips on how you deal with your own guilt? What works for you that would be valuable to share with all of us?


In the video I talked about forgiving our own parents or even us for not being perfect. By the way, perfection doesn’t exist. Please refer to my video on “How to forgive”.

I also talked about Mum has Fun from Nicole MacKenzie and here is the link:

I included a tip on Mindfulness and  I invite you to join my FREE MINDFULNESS TRAINING FOR BUSY MUMS via the link in the bio or here:

Reward yourself for taking the time to connect with yourself.

Remember that everything starts from within and the shortcut to save the planet is to LOVE YOURSELF!

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