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How to re-connect with your partner?

In the last 12 months, I removed Facebook from my phone a few times.

It usually goes like this: I install it and I’m only using it for “important stuff” such as events I want to get to, my own business page and connecting to local groups. But week by week, my time spent on it in

Whether you are in a relationship or not, this topic is for you.

You met your partner and it was a butterfly party. You know what I mean right?

Your head was in the cloud, your feet stopped touching the ground and you were floating around with this smile stuck to your face.

And time passes, and what attracted you the most in him at the start, now annoys you.

“Seriously, he is cute playing guitar all day but when will he ever tidy up the place!” that’s what I said!

I loved him for being so creative, flowing and bringing softness in the place but started complaining that he had no structure, was not organized and nothing would be done.

But it’s like going to the beach and complain that the water is salty or complain about the sand; going to the snow and complain that it’s cold. You see my point?

At some stage we were so distant in our relationship, we wouldn’t have any physical contact. And over time this can be quite damaging and difficult to turn back.

The gap, with time, can feel so huge that we don’t even know where to start and we don’t really feel like we even want to start.

I have met people happy in their relationship, but they have no intimacy, they are disconnected and to me, these are good friends. It’s great to start by being friends and far better than arguing and fighting but a relationship goes beyond the simple friendship.

In today’s video, I’m sharing tips that have helped us and many others to re-connect.

Those steps build trust, compassion, sincerity and love and all those reunited are the perfect recipes for desires.

Watch the video by clicking on the image below:

The longer you’ve been without connecting, the harder it is to re-connect. But if you can sincerely communicate and if you can explain with authenticity that you don’t feel desires to physically connect right now but know of some exercises that can help with this.

I know some clients and people around me have told me “Oh but my partner would never do that” … Are you sure? Or maybe you don’t feel you could do that?

And what if “doing that” was the golden path to real desires and co-creating a level of intimacy where the butterflies could come back?

I can personally share that I was so disconnected to my partner, I could not see this ever-shifting back. He was not super interested in doing those exercises but when we started, he realized how good it felt and how connected we felt.

We must consciously make efforts to share more love, attention, kindness, and connection. The world needs it!

When we argue, I insist on practicing those steps and it dissolves animosity instantly.

I hope this video will help you get closer to the best you.

Reward yourself for taking the time to connect with yourself.

Remember that everything starts from within and THE SHORTCUT TO SAVE THE PLANET IS TO LOVE YOURSELF!

Thank you so much for reading, watching & sharing with your loved ones. I would love to hear from you and thank you in advance for your comments.

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